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Baby outings? Can I really shop with my baby?

By Andrea Stainbrook

An outing with your baby doesn’t have to be hard!

Babies are squishy and adorable and well frankly a lot of work!  Normal outings like heading to the grocery store, or to shop for some new clothes can feel like daunting tasks.  I know I sometimes rather wait for my hubby to come home or ask grandma for help so I can do these tasks alone.

And while alone shopping is super fun at times it may not be practical to try to plan for every outing without our cute little tag-a-long.

Oh hey Mom great choice!

Babies can become a part of the mundane outings or the fun shopping days!

Here are tips for successful shopping days out!

Think ahead!  

  • Make a plan.
  • Limit where you will go for the day just in case baby isn’t up for it.¬† If you are prepared to only hit up¬† a store or two and not conquer a marathon of shopping you will be setting yourself up for success!
  • Prepare the best you can and remember keep your expectations low!

This cute face may make the outing even better!

Baby gear for outings!  

  • Bring with you whatever feeding items you need.¬† Whether it be bottles, or your breasts, or baby is old enough for snacks, kiddos get hungry.
  • Favorite toys are a must!¬† Anything to help with distraction.
  • Some people like those cute little shopping cart covers.¬† Sometimes you are able to attach toys to those.
  • Remember if baby is in it’s bucket car seat still always place it in the bottom of the shopping cart.

Where do we go?

  • Grocery store.¬† Bring a list!¬† Many grocers try to get the kids excited now with either finding the store’s mascot while you are there or offering free fruit.
  • Superstores.¬† (Or Book and Toy stores.)¬† Just want to get out and go somewhere?¬† Let your kiddo explore the toy or book aisles for fun.
  • To your local baby store!

Make it a fun day to remember!

Local Baby /Children Stores

These tips should help you as you venture out.  As a Postpartum & Infant Care Doula I have even become a part of these outings too and help parents feel more confident doing so.    Fill out our inquiry form if you rather shop with us!

Where do you think you will head first?

 

April the Giraffe | The Watched Pot… Stays in Labor?

It is amazing to witness a birth.  Seeing a human enter the world is a beautiful and spiritual thing.  Watching animals birth is equally awe-inspiring.  How they seem to just know exactly how to move and where to go.

Miss April the Giraffe is about to give birth. ¬†She’s a Giraffe in New York anxiously awaiting her baby. ¬†For the last month she is believed to give birth any day.

 

And the world is watching……….And still watching.

Good news is she likely doesn’t know it.

In labor it is common for people to be so excited and supportive to their loved ones they think they will get to watch the birth.  They may wait in a waiting room or hope to enter the labor room.  They could be at their own home waiting on updates and continue to text or call worried.

So when you birth who do you want watching? ¬†It’s OK to do what you feel. ¬†For some the idea of lots of close loved ones near by is reassuring. ¬†For others it can create the feeling of “the watched pot never boils.”

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Typically in labor a woman will experience pain or intensity.  Which can be hard for others to see.  The woman may be coping well but all the loved one sees is suffering and wants it to end.  A laboring woman will have different levels of intensity at different points of the labor.  The mood of the room will change.  If the people in the room do not acknowledge that change it may become annoying or frustrating to the laboring woman. As well as anxious energy in the room can radiate to the laboring woman.  Ideally the room will radiate relaxation and calm.

Some find themselves feeling bad if the baby doesn’t come fast enough because all their family is waiting. ¬†This can all lead to mind games. ¬†The mind and body are very connected.

I personally thought I was OK with the number of people who attended my first birth in the beginning. ¬†Which included some unplanned but caring loved ones. ¬†Then my labor was long. ¬†Long enough for the visitors there to dwindle down to who I originally thought would be at my birth. ¬†And then… things picked back up and baby girl arrived. ¬†I truly believe the added people watching and waiting played ¬†a role.

You need to take a look at yourself and what serves you.  What will you feel if your labor is long?  Are you comfortable asking people to leave?  Some say birth is as intimate as the act to create the baby.  Who do you want watching then?

So April, Good Luck sister! ¬†You’ll do great! ¬†I won’t be watching ūüėČ

 

 

Who is Metro Detroit Doula Services? A Blog Series | Meet Andrea Stainbrook

By Andrea Stainbrook , CEO & Co-Founder of Metro Detroit Doula Services

Andrea Stainbrook joined forces with Amy Hammer to create Metro Detroit Doula Services. Together their vision is to bring support without judgement during pregnancy, birth, and as a family after baby arrives.  Andrea is certified with ProDoula as a Labor Doula, pre-certified as a Postpartum Doula, and is currently working on her certification as a Childbirth Educator with ProDoula.

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Andrea Stainbrook, Co-Founder of Metro Detroit Doula Services, Certified Labor Doula, Pre-Certified Postpartum Doula, and future Childbirth Educator

Tell us about your family!  “My husband Justin and I will be celebrating our 10th wedding anniversary next summer.  We have 2 beautiful, full of energy, funny little girls; Lydia, 6, and Estelle, 3.   George and Jerry are our senior dogs who have been helping us clean under the kitchen table ever since the girls were born.”

What do you love about being a doula? “What I love is watching families grow and how they find strength they may never knew they had.”

If we turned on the radio in your car, what would we hear? “Currently a lot of Sia.  My girls love Sia as much as I do.  You’ll also hear Thrice,  Dustin Kensrue’s solo stuff,  or Rilo Kiley when I get some time to choose as well.”

“As I grieved the loss of the birth I had hoped for, Andrea very easily adapted her support to meet my new needs.  She provided me with a listening ear, supportive words, and many suggestions that helped me emotionally prepare for a cesarean birth.” – Labor Doula Client

Give us 3 words that describe you.  “Fun.  Listener.  Caring.”

What are you reading now?  “Lots of  children’s books.  ūüôā  I would love to find time to read one of Mindy Kaling’s books or Jennifer Weiner’s latest.”

What‚Äôs your favorite show?   “I am very excited for the return of The Walking Dead!  That premiere episode was intense.   It’s shaping up to be a great season.”

What is your philosophy for birth & supporting women and their partners through labor?  “I believe in supporting each family without bias.  Whatever you want and see for your birth I will stand behind you.”

“Trust yourself and be easy on yourself.” -Andrea Stainbrook

Who is your role model?  “There are a few. Truly I am inspired by people who are 100% themselves and just go for it!  My partner Amy is my doula role model.  I’m blessed that we get to do this together.    My husband is a role model for parenting.  He’s so kind and patient.  It’s awesome to watch him with our girls.”

When Andrea gets a day off she enjoys family days together.  She loves baking or cooking her favorite food lasagna with help from her children.  They love lining the lasagna pan with the pasta and sauce!    She enjoys traveling all over Michigan and recently had a great vacation in Disney World!

If you could have a superpower what would it be? “To make everyone happy.  In a perfect world I would love to bring joy to everyone I meet!”

“Andrea was the best Postpartum Doula!  She was absolutely wonderful with my sweet baby girl and was so comforting to me as a new mama.  She made me feel like everything I was going through was normal and was so reassuring.” – Postpartum Doula Client

What is your favorite song to karaoke?  This is a tough one.  Hands down if I am karaoking with Amy (my co-owner) it would be “Nothing’s Gonna Stop Us Now” – Starship.  With my hubs I would probably say “Almost Paradise” (from Footloose) – Mike Reno and Ann Wilson.  But ya know a good Beyonc√© song never hurts either!  (For the record my singing isn’t so amazing… but my entertainment value is there ūüėČ )

 

Contact Metro Detroit Doula Services today and have Andrea be a part of your birth team!
586-960-5993
info@metrodetroitdoulaservices.com

I wish I had a Doula…

By: Andrea Stainbrook

…when I went to the dentist for fillings.

Ugh. ¬†I know, I know, it’s not that bad. ¬†For some reason, the older I get, the more anxious I feel about dental work. ¬†I am scheduled for the most work to date; despite the fact¬†I have been eating, quite frankly, the healthiest this body has ever seen. ¬† Apparently my teeth prefer junk food. ūüôā

Here’s about how it went last time:

So first off the music isn’t right. ¬†While the dentist is doing her friendly banter I hear some radio rock that just doesn’t sit well with me. ¬†At least someone had told me to bring ear buds. ¬†I had NEVER thought of that before. ¬†I put some relaxing ballads on my¬†Spotify and try to zone out. ¬†It was great that I could choose what I listen to, but there’s no way to not hear the drilling. ¬†Don’t focus on it. ¬†Don’t focus on it. ¬†I wonder what the dentist and her assistant are chatting about. ¬†Is it me? ¬†Is there something more horribly wrong with my teeth than what was previously thought?!

*Turns down music*

I hear them chatting about friends and going out to dinner. ¬†Phew, not me. ¬†My dentist smiles at me and tells me I’m doing great. ¬†I guess she noticed I was clenching my phone and tensing my feet. ¬†I’m sure my eyes looked frantic.

*Turns up music*

I feel like we should be moving on to the final parts of this.  Is she still drilling?  Is this a normal amount of time for this?  This feels like a long time.  I wish I checked the time before she started.  Now I have no clue.

Oooh a blue light!  Bite this!  I can do that!

Into my ear… ¬†“HELLO. ¬†It’s me.” ¬†Thanks Adele. ¬†You are always there for me.

And I am done.

Wouldn’t it be nice to have someone dedicated to you at the dentist? ¬†I wish I had someone ¬†to calm my¬†anxiety and help me¬†focus my¬†attention away from the sensations I was¬†feeling. ¬†I would have loved someone to let me know this is all normal. ¬†“You are doing great!” and “You’re almost done.”…phrases I could hear over and over again. ¬†¬†I would love a calming presence in the room that helps me through¬†a time of the unknown,¬†while going through one of life’s not so¬†pleasant experiences. ¬†I wish I had a doula for the dentist.